The Importance of Peers - Daniel Chidiac

The Importance of Peers

The Importance of Peers

Sometimes people take the great things you are doing as a personal attack on their own life. Do not let their insecurities dishearten you.


I was shopping for a pet fish for my nephew, and I explained to the attendant that I couldn’t have one that grew too large as it was only going in a bowl. He assured me I had nothing to worry about, because most fish will only grow in proportion to the size of their environment, and then stop! What a great analogy for the way we live our lives. Everything in the world survives by adapting to its environment. The horny lizard in North America is one of many animals that have proven this. It mainly eats ants, and has formed thick scales to prevent being bitten while having its platter of bugs. When its worst enemy, a coyote shows up, it needs to protect itself. Amazingly, through evolution, this lizard has developed the ability to shoot blood that contains canine-repellent chemicals out of its eye. It has learnt over a long time to protect itself! 

You don’t have to be a genius to figure out that you will eventually adapt to your environment. Its life. The wrong choices of associates could prevent you from growing. What you feed your mind is what’s going to manifest in your life. If you feed it garbage all day, how is that going to make you feel? And then how are those feelings going to influence the actions you take, and consequently, the results you get? When I was thirteen and getting myself into trouble with some other teens, my grandfather told me, “When you hang around garbage, you start to smell.” It was one of the boldest but truest statements I have ever heard. I’m not telling you to go and dump your buddies, but I would reduce time spent with them to small doses if they contradict what you want to achieve. Some might need to be shown the door if your gut is telling you it’s the best option.


If you really want to learn Chinese, but hang around people who speak Spanish all day, which language are you more likely to pick up?


Often, we unconsciously condition ourselves with similar mental, verbal, and physical actions as our peers to satisfy our need for social acceptance. Sometimes we feel that if we make change, our friends will think we are stupid or crazy. Guess what? Sometimes they do! We then have to ask ourselves: If they are constantly seeing our positive changes that way, are they really reliable friends? Your dearest friends might also ridicule you. They may feel as if they are losing you, or, on the other hand, your positive change might make them feel insignificant. By beginning to excel in your life, it may show them how unproductive they are being in their own. To some, your growth begins to expose their lack of it. The more you do, the harder they become on themselves for not doing much. People don’t like that, so their first reaction is to attack. I understand that no one wants to do that to their friends, but it’s no reason to stop living the best life you possibly can. At the end of the day, it’s their issue. Go after what you want, and don’t let anyone stop you. Make sensible choices, because remember, with enough time, you eventually become who you associate with. 


Excerpt from Who Says You Can’t? YOU DOAvailable at Amazon, Book Depository, Barnes & Noble and all major online retailers.








Daniel Chidiac- Author of Who Says You Can’t? YOU DO

1 Comment

  1. I haven’t read the book yet but hooked by your blog and the good reviews already. I have ordered the book here at Takealot in South Africa. Should be getting it in the next 7days.
    I’m on the verge of changing my life this is want I need.



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